It amazes me how today, in 2017, there are still so many misconceptions about the bisexual community, specifically dating a bisexual person. I am a bisexual woman who is currently dating a man, and this is my boyfriend's first time dating someone who is bisexual. Together, he and I have broken some myths about dating a bisexual person.
The most prominent myth is the fact that bisexual people are difficult to date because there is "more competition." The fact that this is a widespread belief is sad because it shows the distrust that people have for bisexual people simply because they are bisexual.
Being bisexual has nothing to do with being unfaithful. Say, just because I see a beautiful woman in a bar doesn't mean I'm going to ditch my boyfriend to flirt with her. Or just because my best friend is a woman does not mean that my boyfriend has reason to worry when I go out with her alone.
Assuming, just because someone is bisexual, that they will automatically take an interest in each and everyone, including yourself, is not only narcissistic, but harmful to the bisexual community. This type of thinking hyper-sexualizes a sexual orientation by assuming that a person must be attracted to the totality of the gender that attracts them.
That's why you'll hear friends say, "I can't hang out with that gay boy, he could make a move with me."
In short, attraction and infidelity are not the uncontrollable urges assumed by those who have sexualities other than heterosexual. I am attracted to the male and female genders, but when I am with a person, they are the only one on my romantic radar.
Another difficult aspect of hypersexualization for bisexual people is the threesome effect. I make sure to avoid the topic of my sexuality with other couples because the moment I reveal that I am bisexual, the next words I usually hear are: "Would you ever have a threesome with us?"
Again, the fact that I am attracted to both men and women does not mean that I want to have sex with both at the same time, and to assume that I would like to have sex with either of them in the The couple returns to be narcissistic. Presuming that because I'm bisexual you automatically attract me and your partner is ridiculous. I know this seems like a no-brainer, but for some reason I've had to answer this question too many times.
Fortunately, my boyfriend and I have an incredibly trusting relationship, and he has never been nervous about hanging out with other people alone or worried that it would be difficult to stay close due to my sexuality. And for my bisexual partners, if your partner suspects you simply because of your sexuality, they are not worth it.
Sexuality does not determine fidelity; fidelity is a choice.
By Cassidy Camp, Florida State University
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